Building Stress Tolerance

Building Stress Tolerance

Stress. We’ve all got it. I’ve got it. You’ve got it. Your kids have it. Some stress is good for us – it can help motivate us to do stuff and it activates our brain so that we really pay attention to what we are doing. But too much stress and those benefits go away...

Be Strategic

Be Strategic

“Be careful.” What a common phrase parents say. Your kid is climbing a tree – “Be careful!” Your kid is carrying hot liquid – “Be careful!” Your kid is going for a drive –“Be careful!” My parents still tell me to “Be careful!” And that’s fine. But it’s also not great.

Learning to Think About What You’re Doing

Learning to Think About What You’re Doing

Metacognition: a useful skill that can help you study better because you know what you’re good at and what you need to improve...

3! 2! 1! Blastoff!

3! 2! 1! Blastoff!

If your kid doesn’t believe in getting started on homework as soon as possible; if procrastination is a problem; and if tasks are often left to the last minute, your child most likely struggles with the executive function skill called task initiation...

Emotional Games with Alison Smith

Emotional Games with Alison Smith

We so often value logic and discount the value of emotions – well not today...

What “They Say” about Parenting with Lauren Jumrukovski

What “They Say” about Parenting with Lauren Jumrukovski

“They say” a lot of things about how you should raise your children and it can be totally overwhelming and stressful when what “they say” just isn’t practical for you and your children...

What’s the Hubbub Surrounding Spanking? (with Alison Smith)

What’s the Hubbub Surrounding Spanking? (with Alison Smith)

The American Academy of Pediatrics just put out a strongly worded statement arguing against spanking because the AAP argues that spanking can harm kids. This is controversial because a lot of parents spank their kids as part of discipline...

How To Be Happy and Fulfilled So Your Kids Are Too

How To Be Happy and Fulfilled So Your Kids Are Too

Our kids do as we do. And what we want for them is to be happy and fulfilled. So, if they’re going to be like us, we need to be happy and fulfilled so they can be...

#101 Controlling Emotions When It’s Hard

#101 Controlling Emotions When It’s Hard

It can be really difficult for kids to focus on school work when they’re having social troubles and yet sometimes we have to sit through class or study for a test even though we are going through tough times...

#100 Work that Memory

#100 Work that Memory

Working memory is basically your short-term memory. If you struggle with working memory, you just don’t have the space in your short-term memory to remember what you just read...

#99 Bob Sternberg on Wisdom, Intelligence, Creativity, and Success

#99 Bob Sternberg on Wisdom, Intelligence, Creativity, and Success

Psychologist Bob Sternberg joins Fireborn to talk about how there is more to succeeding and thriving than testing well. He says “You don’t have to be the best student in your class to have something to contribute to the world...”

#98 Your Executive Functions Strengths

#98 Your Executive Functions Strengths

Executive Functions is a hot term. And that’s a good thing. Executive functions are some really key support skills that help you to be successful in school and later in life...

#97 When Your Sad Teen Won’t Open Up

#97 When Your Sad Teen Won’t Open Up

Communicating with teens can be a challenge. And it can only get harder when they are sad, stressed, or grumpy. Maybe they come home and are just furiously texting or maybe they come home and they rush to their room or they hang out in the family area, but they just don’t engage with you, despite your sweet, sincere attempts to figure out what’s wrong...

#96 The Effectiveness of Helicopter Parenting

#96 The Effectiveness of Helicopter Parenting

Recently research about the effectiveness of helicopter parenting came out – it seemed to say that helicopter parenting works. And yet, experts, like us, have warned against it...

#95 Deliberate Studying

#95 Deliberate Studying

Often kids waste time studying things they already know and then they don’t have time to dive deep into studying the stuff that is challenging them...

#94: Just Get Started

#94: Just Get Started

It can be really hard for kids to start writing a paper or to work on math problems because “They just don’t know how”...

#93: Study that Vocab!

#93: Study that Vocab!

Vocabulary studying is the worst...

#92: A Resolution that's Actually Good for You

#92: A Resolution that's Actually Good for You

Resolutions are not always good for you. Sometimes they can lead to burnout and feelings of inadequacy...

#91: Story Time: Using Stories to Decrease Fears

#91: Story Time: Using Stories to Decrease Fears

Getting kids to tell you stories about their day has numerous benefits! Better conversations, better relationships, and kids who feel comfortable coming to you when they need help...

#90: Taking it Slow

#90: Taking it Slow

Fireborn’s on a mission to help people slow down! The research shows being busy isn’t actually good for your brain and it’s not good for productivity...

#89: Keeping the Holidays Fun Part 3

#89: Keeping the Holidays Fun Part 3

Traveling with kids over the holidays is hard...

 

#88: Getting Happy

#88: Getting Happy

Fireborn’s podcast, The Happy Student, is based on the assumption that we all want our kids to have a happy academic and social life and yet we’ve never specifically talked about happiness – what it is and how to get it...

#87: Jill Caryl Weiner

#87: Jill Caryl Weiner "When We Became Four"

Growing your family is fun and stressful for both parents and big sibs! Jill Caryl Weiner has created a memory book that is not only funny and fun to fill out, but that also helps everyone in the family (parents and big sib) prepare for this new addition...

#86: Keeping the Holidays Fun Part 2

#86: Keeping the Holidays Fun Part 2

For some people, the holidays are too much fun or maybe just too overwhelming. Kids’ schedules get totally thrown off with all the travel, family, and fun. They eat way more sugar and unhealthy things than they normally do. And they can get totally overstimulated by family, activities, parties, and toys...

#85: 5 Tips to Help Your Kid Build Their Attention Span

#85: 5 Tips to Help Your Kid Build Their Attention Span

Kids’ attention spans are notoriously bad. You give them 3 things to do and maybe they’ll do one of them. They get off task and distracted so easily. It’s super frustrating!...

#84: Sharing Experiences is More Effective than Giving Advice

#84: Sharing Experiences is More Effective than Giving Advice

The way we give advice matters. People often get annoyed when others try to give them advice. People don’t like for other people to tell them what to do. Kids also do not like for their parents to tell them what to do...

 #83: Family Mottos Part 2: What If Your Kid Isn’t Kind?

#83: Family Mottos Part 2: What If Your Kid Isn’t Kind?

Family mottos can be a great way to help kids develop a sense of self and promote good decision making. It’s nice to have a family motto like, “We are kind,” and then just have your kids act kind. But what if your kid isn’t acting kind?...

#82: Making Good Decisions through Family Mottos

#82: Making Good Decisions through Family Mottos

Teaching your kids to make good decisions can be really hard. Developing a family motto can make that a lot easier. Family mottos, such as “We are kind” or “We are inclusive” help kids develop a sense of self...

#81: Shock Your Teens with Radical Calmness

#81: Shock Your Teens with Radical Calmness

Teens often do crazy things. Sometimes they even tell you about it beforehand, and despite your explanation of why it’s a terrible idea, they go ahead and do it any way...

#80: Now That I Have Your Attention

#80: Now That I Have Your Attention

Okay – somehow you got your kid to start doing their homework. That’s amazing. How do you now help them maintain their focus on their homework?...

#79: Prepare to Be Distracted

#79: Prepare to Be Distracted

Distractions surround our kids – their attention doesn’t stand a chance. There are TVs, video games, phones, tablets, computers, and apps. Distractions are a big problem because they interrupt our focus...

#78: Developing Character with Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman

#78: Developing Character with Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman

Helping our kids develop character helps them with their academic lives. Being kind makes our days happier. Being optimistic increases our chances of persevering. Persevering helps us overcome challenges...

#77: Helping Your Kid Make Friends with Dr. Emily Anastasio

#77: Helping Your Kid Make Friends with Dr. Emily Anastasio

A happy social life means having good friends. A happy social life is essential to school success because if you are worried about your social life, you can’t focus on your school work...

#76: The Privacy Dilemma

#76: The Privacy Dilemma

Being a kid feels really dangerous these days. Kids are eating Tide Pods, getting cyberbullied, and sending sexts. And technology is really leading the way for so many of these dangerous things...

#75: Getting Your Child Ready for College

#75: Getting Your Child Ready for College

For those of you with kids transitioning to college this year, it’s getting really close to time for your kids to head off to school. This is really exciting and also probably pretty terrifying. How do you know if your child is really ready to go to college?...

#74: Lighthouse Parenting

#74: Lighthouse Parenting

Deciding what type of parent you want to be can be hard, especially if you want to do things a little differently than your parents did. Knowing what the different parenting styles are is the first step to figuring out how you want to parent...

#73: Your Feelings Aren’t You

#73: Your Feelings Aren’t You

Language matters. How we describe ourselves affects how we think of ourselves. If we say “I am sad”, that starts to define us as a sad person. But if you say, “I feel sad” that helps you realize that the feeling is temporary...

#72: Getting the Rest You Need

#72: Getting the Rest You Need

Everyone knows that sleep is good for them and yet we often don’t get enough of it – and our kids don’t get enough either. How do we prioritize sleep for our kids?

#71: Brain Science to the Rescue

#71: Brain Science to the Rescue

Kids love to learn about themselves. Teaching them about their brain in a way they can understand can actually help them remain calm when they have big emotions and help them make good decisions...

Episode 70

Episode 70

We do a lot of literacy work with young kids – we read to them, we ask them to tell us stories about their days, we encourage them to color and to write. And for whatever may be the cause of this, it’s just easier for parents to work on these verbal skills rather than math skills...

Episode 69

Episode 69

We are getting so close to summer vacation! For a lot of kids this means going to summer camp – which can be super fun or not so fun if you’re not into it. Finding the right summer camp can be a bit tricky...

Episode 68

Episode 68

Adults do this thing where we assume that if we know something, other people know it too and it’s obvious. Parents even do this to their kids who have a lot less experience and education and for whom things are not so obvious... 

Episode 67

Episode 67

Studying is not an intuitive skill. Lots of students do not know how to actually study. This can mean kids avoid studying because they aren’t actually sure what to do...

Episode 66

Episode 66

Self-criticism can be a powerful motivator. It can also really harm your mental health - increasing your anxiety. Teens use self-criticism a lot to motivate themselves and they also seriously struggle with anxiety...

Episode 65

Episode 65

Bullying is a big problem kids have to deal with. One of the best ways to decrease bullying is to empower bystanders to do the right thing when they see bullying happen...

Episode 64

Episode 64

ADHD manifests in a multitude of ways. It can be challenging, incredibly hard, as well as rewarding for the child with ADHD and his parents. Sam Hopkins grew up with ADHD and went on to graduate from college as a member of Phi Beta Kappa, but...

Episode 63

Episode 63

Giving your kids time-outs has become controversial, to Fireborn's surprise. So we decided to figure out what was so controversial about them? We found that the time-outs experts recommend and the time-outs experts say are hurting your kids are not the same...

Episode 62

Episode 62

Parent Coach Alison Smith joins us to talk about what to do when your child "talks back". Alison's gentle approach allows parents to parent with compassion and boundaries. She teaches us that when kids talk back it's a surprisingly great opportunity...

Episode 61

Episode 61

Giving logical consequences is easier said than done. So this week we talk about a specific example of giving a logical consequence during a challenging time: when your underage teen drives the car. 

Episode 60

Episode 60

Last week we talked about some general tips for discipline. And we obviously think those general tips, like remaining calm and staying focused on why the behavior was bad and not giving the impression that you think the child is bad...

Episode 59

Episode 59

Working to make this enormous topic of discipline manageable, Fireborn continues its series on discipline by talking about the general rules (guidelines for parents) of discipline...

Episode 58

Episode 58

Discipline is a pretty overwhelming topic. It can also be pretty overwhelming when you are trying to discipline your kids and follow all of the advice! How do you provide logical consequences?...

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